LOVE IS ENOUGH

 “All You Need is Love.” He also beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and anti-semitic slurs, and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day.

Thirty-five years later, Trent Reznor from Nine Inch Nails wrote a song called “Love is Not Enough.” Reznor, despite being famous for his shocking stage performances and his grotesque and disturbing videos, got clean from all drugs and alcohol, married one woman, had two children with her, and then canceled entire albums and tours so that he could stay home and be a good husband and father.

One of these two men had a clear and realistic understanding of love. One of them did not. One of these men idealized love as the solution to all of his problems. One of them did not. One of these men was probably a narcissistic asshole. One of them was not.

In our culture, many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life’s problems. Our movies and our stories and our history all celebrate it as life’s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price.

When we believe that “all we need is love,” then we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect, humility and commitment towards the people we care about. After all, if love solves everything, then why bother with all the other stuff — all of the hard stuff?

But if, like Reznor, we believe that “love is not enough,” then we understand that healthy relationships require more than pure emotion or lofty passions. We understand that there are things more important in our lives and our relationships than simply being in love. And the success of our relationships hinges on these deeper and more important values.

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THREE  TRUTHS ABOUT LOVE

The problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us. These unrealistic expectations then sabotage the very relationships we hold dear in the first place. Allow me to illustrate:

1. Love does not equal compatibility. Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you to be with over the long term. Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. And the two don’t bleed into one another very well.

It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who doesn’t treat us well, who makes us feel worse about ourselves, who doesn’t hold the same respect for us as we do for them, or who has such a dysfunctional life themselves that they threaten to bring us down with them.

Abstract painting love is not enough

It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who has different ambitions or life goals that are contradictory to our own, who holds different philosophical beliefs or worldviews that clash with our own sense of reality.

It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who sucks for us and our happiness.

That may sound paradoxical, but it’s true.

When I think of all of the disastrous relationships I’ve seen or people have emailed me about, many (or most) of them were entered into on the basis of emotion — they felt that “spark” and so they just dove in head first. Forget that he was a born-again Christian alcoholic and she was an acid-dropping bisexual necrophiliac. It just felt right.

And then six months later, when she’s throwing his shit out onto the lawn and he’s praying to Jesus twelve times a day for her salvation, they look around and wonder, “Gee, where did it go wrong?”

The truth is, it went wrong before it even began.

When dating and looking for a partner, you must use not only your heart, but your mind. Yes, you want to find someone who makes your heart flutter and your farts smell like cherry popsicles. But you also need to evaluate a person’s values, how they treat themselves, how they treat those close to them, their ambitions and their worldviews in general. Because if you fall in love with someone who is incompatible with you…well, as the ski instructor from South Park once said, you’re going to have a bad time.

2. Love does not solve your relationship problems. My first girlfriend and I were madly in love with each other. We also lived in different cities, had no money to see each other, had families who hated each other, and went through weekly bouts of meaningless drama and fighting.

Man and woman kissing love is not enough

And every time we fought, we’d come back to each other the next day and make up and remind each other how crazy we were about one another and that none of those little things matter because we’re omg sooooooo in love and we’ll find a way to work it out and everything will be great, just you wait and see. Our love made us feel like we were overcoming our issues, when on a practical level, absolutely nothing had changed.

As you can imagine, none of our problems got resolved. The fights repeated themselves. The arguments got worse. Our inability to ever see each other hung around our necks like an albatross. We were both self-absorbed to the point where we couldn’t even communicate that effectively. Hours and hours talking on the phone with nothing actually said. Looking back, there was no hope that it was going to last. Yet we kept it up for three fucking years!

After all, love conquers all, right?

Unsurprisingly, that relationship burst into flames and crashed like the Hindenburg into an oil patch. The break up was ugly. And the big lesson I took away from it was this: while love may make you feel better about your relationship problems, it doesn’t actually solve any of your relationship problems.

This is how a toxic relationship works. The roller coaster of emotions are intoxicating, each high feeling even more important and more valid than the one before, but unless there’s a stable and practical foundation beneath your feet, that rising tide of emotion will eventually come and wash it all away.

3. Love is not always worth sacrificing yourself. One of the defining characteristics of loving someone is that you are able to think outside of yourself and your own needs to help care for another person and their needs as well.

But the question that doesn’t get asked often enough is exactly what are you sacrificing, and is it worth it?

Sad girl realizing that love is not enough

In loving relationships, it’s normal for both people to occasionally sacrifice their own desires, their own needs, and their own time for one another. I would argue that this is normal and healthy and a big part of what makes a relationship so great.

But when it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, one’s physical body, one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that same love becomes problematic. A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual identity, not damage it or replace it. If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then that’s essentially what we’re doing: we’re allowing our love to consume us and negate us, and if we’re not careful, it will leave us as a shell of the person we once were.

THE FRIENDSHIP TEST

One of the oldest pieces of relationship advice in the book is, “You and your partner should be best friends.” Most people look at that piece of advice in the positive: I should spend time with my partner like I do my best friend; I should communicate openly with my partner like I do with my best friend; I should have fun with my partner like I do with my best friend.

But people should also look at it in the negative: Would you tolerate your partner’s negative behaviors in your best friend?

Amazingly, when we ask ourselves this question honestly, in most unhealthy and codependent relationships, the answer is “no.”

I know a young woman who just got married. She was madly in love with her husband. And despite the fact that he had been “between jobs” for more than a year, showed no interest in planning the wedding, often ditched her to take surfing trips with his friends, and her friends and family raised not-so-subtle concerns about him, she happily married him anyway.

But once the emotional high of the wedding wore off, reality set in. A year into their marriage, he’s still “between jobs,” he trashes the house while she’s at work, gets angry if she doesn’t cook dinner for him, and any time she complains he tells her that she’s “spoiled” and “arrogant.” Oh, and he still ditches her to take surfing trips with his friends.

And she got into this situation because she ignored all three of the harsh truths above. She idealized love. Despite being slapped in the face by all of the red flags he raised while dating him, she believed that their love signaled relationship compatibility. It didn’t. When her friends and family raised concerns leading up to the wedding, she believed that their love would solve their problems eventually. It didn’t. And now that everything had fallen into a steaming shit heap, she approached her friends for advice on how she could sacrifice herself even more to make it work.

And the truth is, it won’t.

Why do we tolerate behavior in our romantic relationships that we would never ever, ever tolerate in our friendships?

Imagine if your best friend moved in with you, trashed your place, refused to get a job or pay rent, demanded you cook dinner for them, and got angry and yelled at you any time you complained. That friendship would be over faster than Paris Hilton’s acting career.

Or another situation: a man’s girlfriend who was so jealous that she demanded passwords to all of his accounts and insisted on accompanying him on his business trips to make sure he wasn’t tempted by other women. This woman was like the NSA. His life was practically under 24/7 surveillance and you could see it wearing on his self-esteem. His self-worth dropped to nothing. She didn’t trust him to do anything. So he quit trusting himself to do anything.

Yet he stays with her! Why? Because he’s in love!

Remember this: The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love.

You can fall in love with a wide variety of people throughout the course of your life. You can fall in love with people who are good for you and people who are bad for you. You can fall in love in healthy ways and unhealthy ways. You can fall in love when you’re young and when you’re old. Love is not unique. Love is not special. Love is not scarce.

But your self-respect is. So is your dignity. So is your ability to trust. There can potentially be many loves throughout your life, but once you lose your self-respect, your dignity or your ability to trust, they are very hard to get back.

Love is a wonderful experience. It’s one of the greatest experiences life has to offer. And it is something everyone should aspire to feel and enjoy.

But like any other experience, it can be healthy or unhealthy. Like any other experience, it cannot be allowed to define us, our identities or our life purpose. We cannot let it consume us. We cannot sacrifice our identities and self-worth to it. Because the moment we do that, we lose love and we lose ourselves.

Because you need more in life than love. Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough.

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LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL

Life is beautiful, but not always. It has lots of problems you have to face everyday. Don't worry though! All these problems make you strong, it gives you courage to stand alone in future. Life is full of moments of joy, pleasure, success and comfort punctuated by misery, defeat, failures and problems. 

There is no human being on Earth, strong, powerful, wise or rich, who has not experienced, struggle, suffering or failure. You have to work hard to reach to the highest position. Life is full of paths, you just have to choose the right one. Life is interesting and amazing like the stars up in the skies.

With no doubt, Life is beautiful and full of celebrations. However you should always be ready to face adversity and challenges. There are difficult situations in life as well.Be careful!! You might get hurt too hard. 

Life is sometimes too selfish to think about yourself. Then life is too hard to handle. Falling in love! People tend to fall in love nowadays but i personally think the right time has to come... You might also get hurt in Love. You might be broken-hearted as the people say.

Life is the place where people treat everyone differently, racism exists as well as bullying. People tend to say bad stuff behind people's back. There are millions of people using horrible words to call people, People use people everyday. Life is not that easy in my view. Sometimes, all you want to do is sit alone and question yourself with hundred of questions

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Am I ugly as the people say?
Why don't i have any friends?
Why is the world so hard to live in?
What do i look like in other peoples eyes?
Why don't i have the same colour of the skin as everyone else? 
How can i make others happy?

The questions does not stop. You ask those questions over and over again. When you don't have any answers, you want to scream out loud or cry.

Bullying? Racism? What are all these?, I don't understand what people get from making others unhappy and upset. Every single one of you there in the world have your own beauty. EVERYTHING IS BEAUTIFUL.

So don't sit there saying i'm ugly say i'm PRETTY or HANDSOME, Damnn care about what people say.

"RUMORS ARE SPREADED BY HATERS, CARRIED BY FOOLS AND ACCEPTED BY IDIOT!" Treat people the way they treat you! Be strong and face these saddo people around the world. Haters are always around you.
 but it doesn't matter cause they are the ones who make you famous. So what? If you're not beautiful, pretty, you have life and thats the most of it. Not everyone gets to live and those who do are sooo lucky!

People die, life changes, people come and go but guess what you have to go with it however much it hurts . You miss people who were in your life, that's the way they remind you that they still exist in your life. I know the feeling of that, I miss my handsome uncle as well but i know we can never meet again. 
I know he is not here anymore, So what i will still love him the most in my life. People say forget the past, life in present and save the future for tomorrow. I think that is true, but i cannot forget my past, it has all those beautiful moments which mean the world to me. It is the hardest thing but i just try try try and try. Don't give up or lose hope on anything.

DREAM AS MUCH AS YOU LIKE AND MAKE IT TRUE!
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE SO MAKE THE MOST OF IT.

Live your life however you want

Have fun! Dance as much you want!

Take risks.. Trust yourself. Believe in yourself....

Damn care about haters! There is so much to do so stop faffing about.

Life is too short to save it for tomorrow.

Don't give up and Hope always!

Love Forever!! Do what your heart says...

Learn lessons from the mistakes....

From this i learned awful a lot things. I started to enjoy life instead of listening to sad songs and sitting alone. Happiness came into my life but there is sadness as well. Everyday i used to dress in dull clothes now i love colours i used to hate going out of my house but guess what all these sound outside sounds attractive than sad songs. Rock music is what i listen to now, sometimes sad as well All things in life depends on what your mood and the situation.

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Life Inside The Young Pioneers

 Whether practicing with grenades or shooting Germans, the Young Pioneers of the World War II era were forced to grow up all too fast.

The Soviet Union’s Answer To The Boy Scouts

Young Pioneers wear gas masks during a civil defense drill in Leningrad. 1937.

The haunting photo above has, in recent years, taken on a new life thanks to the internet. However, few seem to know the story behind it.

The image shows members of the Young Pioneers youth group in Soviet Russia donning their gas masks during a civil defense drill near Leningrad in 1937. These days, the image appears to depict a people consumed by fear of war. At the time, however, the image was meant to be one of strength, meant to convey the efficiency and preparedness of the youth organization.

The Vladimir Lenin All-Union Pioneer Organization, commonly known as the Young Pioneers, was a youth organization in the Soviet Union that promoted communist ideals of cooperation and hard work.

The organization was formed in 1922, when the Scouts, the larger movement that encompasses the Boy Scouts, was banned from Soviet Russia. They were banned for not supporting the new communist government, but citizens still recognized the good that the Scouts did. In order to fill that gap, the Soviet government created the Young Pioneers in order to teach life skills to young kids while also indoctrinating them into communist ideology.

Early Young Pioneers.

Children between the ages of 10 and 15 joined the Young Pioneers and participated in sports, games, summer camps, and the like. Though membership was hypothetically voluntary, social pressure ensured that almost every child in that age range was a Pioneer.

Young Pioneer dress uniform.

The Soviet Young Pioneers were part of a larger Pioneer movement that sought to foster communist ideology within the youth. This larger Pioneer organization had chapters across the communist world and beyond, including Cuba, China, Mexico, and Finland.

When The Great Patriotic War, as the Soviets refer to World War II, broke out, the Young Pioneers applied the skills that they had learned in their organization in order to aid the war effort.

During the war, children of the Soviet Union were exposed to much of the violence of the war. Instead of cops and robbers, children in the Soviet Union during the war played “Soviets against Germans”.

In the midst of the war, children would play with discarded shells, grenades and clips. One Soviet newspaper article from 1942 quoted a child at a youth summer camp saying, “We practice grenade throwing and play with our pets.”

Another said that she was “mastering the rifle and reading Gogol’s Dead Souls.”

The Young Pioneers also contributed to the war effort by having as many as 5 million members working on state farms to make up for the older men who had gone off to fight. Pioneers were also encouraged to collect items that could be reused for the war effort like paper and scrap metal. Young Pioneers collected 134,000 tons of scrap metal between 1942 and 1944.

Pioneers were also directed to maintain the graves of those who died in the war, many of which were left neglected in the chaos of wartime.

In areas that were occupied by the German army, many Young Pioneers even became involved in resistance movements. Some died fighting German occupation, and four of them were awarded the Gold Star Medal, one of the highest military honors in the Soviet Union and a symbol that marks its wearer as a “Hero of the Soviet Union.”

Official portrait of Valentyna Kotyka

One such Pioneer was Valentin Kotyk, the youngest ever Hero of the Soviet Union. When the Germans occupied Ukraine at the height of World War II, Kotyk, who was only 14 at the time, joined the partisan resistance. He was wounded twice before he was eventually killed in the Battle of Iziaslav. He was honored with the Gold Star Medal and via numerous monuments at Young Pioneer camps across Russia to this day.

These days, the Young Pioneers still exist throughout the world, but they are much less popular than they were at the height of Soviet power. They have heavily reduced their focus on spreading communist ideology, and function much more like a traditional scout group.

But when the Young Pioneers were first formed, it was under unique circumstances complete with unique challenges. And with the beginning of Soviet involvement in World War II, this children’s organization was forced to confront the brutality of war, and many of its members rose to the challenge.

Thus, images like the one at the very top demonstrate that there is no way to fully remove children from the realities of war, and that the decision to go to war will always, ultimately, affect those most vulnerable.

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Pakistan Win World Cup 1992(Memories)

            PAKISTAN VS ENGLAND WORLD CUP 1992

Wasim Akram magic wins it for Imran Khan's cornered tigers

Pakistan 249 for 6 (Imran 72, Miandad 58, Pringle 3-22) beat England 227 (Fairbrother 62, Akram 3-49, Mushtaq 3-41) by 22 runs

In the end, it had to be Imran. Pakistan's captain, leader, talisman and icon is into his 40th year and will surely never be seen again on a cricket field after this, the triumph to end all triumphs. But when, with the game out of reach for England and only pride left to fight for, Richard Illingworth launched a tired wipe to Rameez Raja on the edge of the ring, it was Imran Khan, the bowler, whose upraised arms confirmed the end of a career-long quest, and the seizure of Pakistan's maiden World Cup triumph.

The scorecard will say that Pakistan outlasted England to win by 22 runs - and Imran's role was fittingly front-and-centre, in particular a captain's innings of 72 that set the agenda for everything that followed. And yet, the numbers tell only a fraction of the story of a fraught, tense encounter in which a sprinkling of magic proved the difference between the teams.

The match panned out much as the two teams' runs to the final had done - England, the early pace-setters, pushing Pakistan to the absolute brink in the opening exchanges, only for a few moments of good fortune to turn the tide and drain the energies of the men in light blue. And then, slowly at first, but then in a crescendo with bat and later with ball, Pakistan shed their inhibitions and turned to their inner tigers to finish with a roar that no opponent could have withstood.

The critical moment came as the players paused for drinks after 34 overs of England's run-chase. Faced with a stiff target of 250, England had been rocking at 69 for 4 but found, in Neil Fairbrother's eye for a deflected single and Allan Lamb's old-school pugnacity, a fifth-wicket pairing with the requisite fight to take the game deep. Their stand had exactly doubled England's total to 138 and reeled the requirement back to a manageable seven an over, when Imran decided it was time to turn back to his strike bowler, Wasim Akram, with licence to let rip.

It was a moment by which legends are born. After another new-ball burst in which Wasim's consummate skill had been undermined by the degree of movement on offer, his return with an older, tamer ball wrecked the contest. With reverse-swing from the outset, England were on their guard, but even knowing what was liable to come his way, Lamb had no response to a delivery from the Gods, an inswinging, out-seaming gut-twister that snaked one way then the other, opening the batsman up like a can of worms before kissing past a groping edge to flick the outer half of his off stump.

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And if that was good in isolation, then the follow-up to Chris Lewis conferred the double-whammy instant iconic status - a flip of the shiny side of the ball to unleash a howling inswinger, one that started so wide of off stump, Lewis might have believed it would be called as such, before hurtling back through his defences as if caught in a gravitational pull, to smash the top of the stumps, and confirm that England's hopes were gone.

Fairbrother withstood as best he could, top-scoring for England with a gutsy 62, but Pakistan had too many snake-charming overs left in their repertoire for their opponents to get back on track. If there was an error in England's approach, it was their failure to take the attack sooner to the left-arm spin of Aamer Sohail, who burgled his way through 10 overs for 49 in the crucial mid-innings rebuild, and allowed Pakistan to paper over the fact that, with all due respect to Imran's glorious past, they came into the game with just three frontline bowlers.

But what a trio they proved to be. Until Akram's intercession, it seemed that Mushtaq Ahmed's outrageous googly to Graeme Hick might prove to be the crowning moment of the night, but his 3 for 41 was no less critical for being upstaged. In fact, in luring the ever-dangerous Graham Gooch to his doom on the slog-sweep for 29, he arguably did as much as anyone to point Pakistan towards glory.

The boy-turned-man who took that catch, sprinting, stretching, sprawling at deep midwicket for an inspired take - was the zippy seamer Aaqib Javed, whose precociously commanding performance at the top and tail of the innings returned figures of 2 for 27 to ensure that the injured Waqar Younis was barely given a passing mention. Throw in another display of unfettered strokeplay from Inzamam-ul-Haq in the latter stages of Pakistan's innings, and it's clear this triumph - Imran's overlord status notwithstanding - was a testament to Pakistan's eternal faith in youth.



But how they were made to battle by a team that came into the final as favourites after a supremely disciplined campaign, but who crucially lacked the same youthful spark to augment the ageing giants in their line-up. With the ball, Derek Pringle produced one of the great losing performances in World Cup history, and Gooch and Lamb both had their moments with the bat. But Ian Botham's last hurrah was less of a joy. His old-pro outswingers had hoovered up 15 wickets in England's run to the final, but just one belated scalp on the night. And with the bat, he suffered the ignominy of a sixth-ball duck, adjudged caught behind off an Akram lifter, even as umpire Aldridge was beginning his walk to square leg.

Mind you, Pakistan's own innings hadn't started much better. On a lively deck with juicy early movement for the seamers, their gameplan had been clear from the outset. Bed in at all cost, at the expense even of forward momentum, and trust their middle-order artillery to reprise the late onslaught that unseated New Zealand in Saturday's thrilling semi-final.

It was a tactic fraught with risk, especially once the canny old pro Pringle had proven his fitness after missing the South Africa match with a rib injury. Manipulating the new ball like a yo-yo on its string, Pringle served up a supreme spell of wickedly intelligent medium pace, bowling eight overs off the reel for 13 runs, with only his own size-12s breaking the spell, as he overstepped for a total of five no-balls, coupled with three wides.

Pringle accounted for both openers in that first spell, Aamer Sohail for 4, who flashed with flat feet at one that nipped off the deck outside off, before Rameez Raja was pinned lbw for 8 by the inducker, a brace of deliveries that showcased his mastery of seam position, honed in so many Championship-winning seasons at Chelmsford.

But at 24 for 2 in the ninth over, and with Pakistan's veteran pairing of Imran and Miandad already united at the crease, both teams knew that the game could be won and lost with the next breakthrough.

Initially Miandad seemed to know it more acutely than his captain. Whereas Imran was content to plant an imperious front foot down the wicket, blocking the straight ones and leaving those outside off, his partner got off to an unusually skittish start by the standards of his formidable tournament. He might have been caught in the gully on 1 as Lewis bent his back in an excellent new-ball spell, before scuffing a drive inches short of midwicket two balls later.

And then, in the space of two deliveries, came a pair of let-offs will surely haunt Pringle to the end of his days. With teasing shape back into the right-hander's front pad, Miandad was rapped plumb in front of the stumps, then plumber still - from an even fuller length, so taking out any doubt about the height. On both occasions umpire Bucknor shook his head, and Pringle could only flap his hands in disgust, ruing a moment lost, but confident it could yet come again.


Wasim Akram and Mushtaq Ahmed celebrate after the last England wicket PA Images via Getty Images
For even with those let-offs, Pakistan were seemingly going nowhere on 34 for 2 at the 17-over drinks break. But as Imran might as well have muttered during a mid-over conflab, "Ghabrana nahin hai (don't panic)". Sure enough, the introduction of Ian Botham broke the shackles a touch, as Miandad skipped to the pitch of a drive through mid-on for four in an opening over that yielded nine.

But it was Imran himself who had the next key let-off when, on 9 from 41 balls, Phil DeFreitas banged in a short ball that rushed onto a pre-meditated pull. Gooch at square leg, all 38 years of him, sprinted full pelt as the ball plummeted over his shoulder, but despite a valiant dive, he was unable to wrap his fingers round the chance.

Whether that was the game there and then, who knows. But slowly but surely, the MCG's vast outfield began to look chock-full of scoring opportunities, as England's tiring team - already feeling the strain after a long winter campaign - began to be pulled apart at the seams. From 70 for 2 at the halfway mark of the innings, the game was still in their grasp. At 96 for 2 after 30, they were getting anxious for a wicket. And at 125 for 2 after 35, with Dermot Reeve flogged from the attack with a 12-run over that brought up the hundred partnership, they were getting desperate.

Miandad, in his fifth World Cup, duly became the first Pakistani to score 1000 runs at the tournament, and by the time he was finally extracted in the 40th over for 58 - unfurling the reverse-sweep against Illingworth where conventional mowing through the line had been serving him just fine - the arrival of the helmetless Inzamam-ul-Haq, Pakistan's break-out star of the semi-final, wasn't exactly a blessing. At 163 for 3 with ten overs in which to make merry, the stage was perfectly set for Pakistan's much-vaunted finishers.

Imran knew it too. On 72, having done his bit and more, he aimed an ambitious wipe at his fellow legendary allrounder Botham, and picked out Illingworth on the edge of long-on boundary. He departed to a rich ovation, safe in the knowledge that he had risen to the occasion in what will surely now be his final, final farewell. And handed the reins to his other young gun, Akram.

Between them, Inzamam and Akram drained England's troops of their resolve, adding 75 in 53 balls between them, with Inzamam's initial flurry of four fours in his first ten balls giving way to a supporting role as Wasim took up the cudgels in the final five overs. He cracked four fours in his 18-ball 33, including a brace of venomous swipes to wreck Lewis's figures in his final over, and though Pringle returned to outfox Inzamam for a richly deserved third wicket, a target of 250 - four more than England had failed to chase in Calcutta five years earlier - was daunting.

Win moment in paksitan team's with Captain of Imran khan........ 

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India Vs. Pakistan Champions Trophy Final (2017)

Pakistan Champions 2017 (Memories)

LONDON, ENGLAND - JUNE 18: The Pakistan celebrate winning the final during the ICC Champions Trophy..

Final match between India and Pakistan at The Kia Oval on June 18, 2017 in London, England. 

LONDON, ENGLAND - JUNE 18: The Pakistan celebrate winning the final during the ICC Champions Trophy...

On Sunday, June 18, Pakistan defeated India in an incredible victory at the International Cricket Council Champions Trophy 2017 Final at The Oval in South London. It isn’t an exaggeration to say that in India and Pakistan, and amongst the South Asian diaspora abroad, all eyes were glued to their TV screens on Sunday—such is the popularity of cricket in the region, and the magnitude of an India-Pakistan clash.

It was a match for the history books as underdogs Pakistan battered favorites India, particularly given the colossal rivalry the two teams have long shared. It was an encounter that any sports lover would relish—even Indians like myself, devastated by the loss, could not deny that it was the sort of match that reminds us why sport is so special.

The last time the two countries faced each other in the final of an ICC event was 10 years ago at the 2007 World T20 in South Africa, when MS Dhoni led India to a memorable victory. Over the decade since then, India has won a World Cup and a Champions Trophy and has been the world’s best side in all formats. India’s Virat Kohli has become recognized as among the world’s greatest batsmen of all time. For the most part it’s been accolade after accolade, a sort of golden age for Indian cricket.

LONDON, ENGLAND - JUNE 18: A general view of the action during the ICC Champions Trophy Final match... [+] between India and Pakistan at The Kia Oval.

LONDON, ENGLAND - JUNE 18: A general view of the action during the ICC Champions Trophy Final match...

Sadly, Pakistani cricket suffered a steady decline in the same period. A devastating terrorist attack in 2009 in Lahore, on the Sri Lanka team bus brought an end to international cricket in the country. Pakistan then lost their captain and top two bowlers to long suspensions due to a spot-fixing scandal in 2010. They were the lowest ranked side going into this year’s Champions Trophy. Most thought they wouldn’t even make it past the group stage.

Their first fixture was against India, and even though it was just the beginning of the tournament, it was a highly anticipated encounter because in recent years, for very unfortunate reasons, the two teams have rarely played each other. In the eight years after the 2008 Mumbai terror attacks, India and Pakistan have faced one another only 16 times. To put this figure in context, India has played against England, for example, over 50 times in that same period.

Pakistan lost that first match by 124 runs, outclassed by India in all departments. The team looked under-confident and devoid of creativity, and cricket pundits across the world discussed just how far behind Pakistan had fallen in modern limited overs cricket. No one could have imagined at this point that the same team would proceed to win the title, turning the tables against the same opposition. But several surprising twists in their fortunes awaited.

India's captain Virat Kohli walks past the trophy during the presentation after the ICC Champions... 

India's captain Virat Kohli walks past the trophy during the presentation after the ICC Champions...

Pakistan won against South Africa in a rain-affected match, only to then manage another win against Sri Lanka. Suddenly they were in the semi-final, set to face hosts and favorites, England. But because rain had affected several other results as well, many thought Pakistan’s position was more thanks to luck than skill. Surely they’d be knocked out now. England hadn’t yet lost a single match in the tournament and they’d beaten Pakistan in an ODI series in 2016. The odds were clearly stacked in their favor. The result however, would tell an entirely different story--of Pakistan’s tremendous resilience and determination, and the sheer unpredictability of sport.

Against England, Pakistan demonstrated a remarkable turnaround in performance. They batted well, and bowled superbly. In a matter of days, they had somehow become a strong, cohesive unit.

The tournament couldn’t have hoped for a more exciting final than India versus Pakistan -– it’s arguably the most mouthwatering rivalry in international cricket, and a dream for advertisers, given the staggering viewing figures these encounters draw. Despite Pakistan’s intense and inspired turnaround, India were the favorites, and Indian fans were confident that their men in blue would emerge easy winners.

India won the toss and chose to bowl. At this point, the general consensus across spectators, TV pundits and social media was that India would be able to chase down whatever Pakistan scored. But Pakistan proved to be the dark horse on the day. It became clear fairly quickly that they’d been heavily underestimated.

Pakistan's Hasan Ali celebrates taking the wicket of India's Ravichandran Ashwin during the ICC...

Pakistan's Hasan Ali celebrates taking the wicket of India's Ravichandran Ashwin during the ICC..

Pakistan’s Fakhar Zaman who was caught off a no-ball from Jusprit Bumrah early on in his innings went on to score a fantastic 114 runs. His first ODI century contributed to his team’s  tremendous total of 338/4. Then, when it was India’s turn to bat, three early wickets came at the hands of Mohammad Amir, heralding the beginning of the end for India. Azhar Ali dropped an easy catch that would have put down Indian captain Virat Kohli, but he was caught out right after by Shadab Khan. Upon review, a seemingly unsuccessful LBW shout against Yuvraj Singh was decreed, and India were now 54/4. The next over, MS Dhoni was caught out and it was 54/5. India would need nothing short of a miracle to recover from here.

Pakistan managed to bowl India out for just 158, winning by an unbelievable 180 runs. India’s die hard cricket fans were heartbroken, some reported to have even smashed their TV screens in dismay. But India’s captain Virat Kohli was gracious in defeat, congratulating Pakistan and whole-heartedly conceding that the men in green were indeed the better team on the day.

Pakistan won an ODI title for the first time in over two decades. Their thrilling journey proves irrefutably that in sport, as in life, anything is possible.

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Heroes of humanity

I salute the doctors who sacrifice their lives for the treatment  of  corona's patients.....

The point was that the disaster that has engulfed human beings
"It simply came to our notice then. When the epidemic is over
 When it spread all over the world, it was the health workers everywhere who fought the Covid 19 with great bravery and diligence. He worked tirelessly to save the lives of the men who fell victim to the plague.
The fact is that in order to save the lives of strangers, they risked their lives.

 In the Holy Qur'an, Allah says:
Saving a human life is a great act
So it is as if he saved the whole of humanity. "Who saved the life of a single human being?"

  Prominent Russian writer Anton Chekhov says:
"The medical profession is an accomplishment; it comes from the sacrifices and the purity of spirit and thought."
Competing against Covid 19 was not a child's play anyway. It was born of a dangerous and mysterious virus whose features are still slowly emerging. For example, four months later, in April, it was discovered that the virus could be transmitted from person to person through inhalation. In fact, the biggest feature of the new Corona virus, SARS Cove 2, is that it can enter the human body very easily. And the other great feature is that as soon as it reaches the body, it easily connects with the human cells and starts pushing the person to the brink of death.

Researchers in the United States have found that when a patient talks, the virus can still be inhaled into healthy people sitting nearby by saliva. This feature makes SARS Co2 2 a very dangerous virus. In fact, when a person speaks, invisible water vapor of burning saliva comes out of his mouth along with his breath. These water vapors are released into the atmosphere. Only by breathing in the air can they enter the body of other nearby humans, and the same water vapor may contain the SARS-2 virus. According to experts, the virus survives for two to three hours in water vapor circulating in the air. It is as if the patient of Stork Mountain 2, even if he talks, can spread the virus through water vapor.

The stork came down on mankind as a torment. However, health workers began to fight the virus with extraordinary diligence and bravery. His courage did not diminish and he kept his spirits up even under intense pressure. When the epidemic spread rapidly in many countries, the atmosphere in many hospitals was similar to that in war days. In this war environment, many doctors sometimes had to go through a lot of psychological struggles.
A doctor at a town hospital in Italy says: "Our hospital had four ventilators. We applied them to old patients. A few days later, five young patients of Covid 19 were brought there. One of them was in critical condition. He had difficulty breathing. It was finally decided to give him a vanity letter. I then approached an old man so that I could take his vanity letter. When I took the mask off his face, the old man looked at me with such a look that I shuddered. In his eyes the anguish of death, the helplessness, the sorrow, the helplessness and the grief of being ignored; I saw all human emotions mixed. I can't forget his eyes all my life. ”The doctor did not say whether the sick old man survived or was loved by God.

As Covid 19 spread, it was soon discovered in almost every country that hospitals did not have adequate facilities to deal with it. In particular, there was a lack of protective equipment that doctors, nurses, etc. wear to protect themselves from the epidemic virus or germs. Despite this, the health workers did not turn away from their duty and continued to take care of the diseases. Due to not wearing protective clothing, thousands of health workers all over the world also fell victim to SARS-2. Most of them recovered by quarantining themselves. However, more than 200 doctors, nurses and paramedics bravely fought the plague. In this way, he made the sacrifice and self-sacrifice an everlasting chapter in the history of humanity. In some places, doctors even danced and sang songs to inspire the patients and bring them closer to life.

It is a common observation that when a disease, especially an epidemic, strikes, every human being is anxious to save his life. In such an extraordinary world, only doctors, nurses and paramedics come to the aid of distressed patients. He puts his life on the line, heals people who have reached the brink of death, and heals them and gives them new life. That is why the health worker was called the Messiah. It is generally believed that some Messiahs have fallen prey to materialism and greed. But the majority of them treat the patient with honesty and selflessness. The same thing came to light during the 19th century.

The memorable virtue of the health workers in the fight against the new epidemic is that even without protective clothing and the necessary equipment and supplies, they did not fulfill their responsibilities diligently and did not work diligently. It also happened in rich countries like 'Spain', 'Italy' and 'America'. There, doctors and nurses were busy caring for patients by placing garbage bags on their faces and bodies. Physicians treated diving and ski goggles by wearing goggles.


 Doctors fighting the epidemic in remote areas

Dr. Osama Riaz (Pakistan)

A large number of compatriots had also gone to Iran from Gilgit-Baltistan. When he returned, the local government began screening him. Dr. Osama Riaz, a 26-year-old youth from Chilas, was at the forefront of this process. He was so absorbed in his work that he continued to screen those who came without wearing protective clothing. When he returned one evening, his condition worsened and he died that night. He was perfectly healthy but had "Cyto Cain Storm" in his lungs due to Sars Cove 2. The same medical condition killed him by suffocation. Cyto Cain storm occurs when the human immune system becomes very active in the fight against the invading virus. Then he kills the man.

The government is responsible for the death of Dr. Osama Riaz for failing to provide him with the required protective clothing. Despite this negative thing, Dr. Osama did not get scared and continued to perform his duty actively. After all, he sacrificed his life to save the lives of others. He was married some time ago. The state of Azad Kashmir posthumously awarded him its highest civil honor, the Nishan-e-Kashmir, to compensate for its shortcomings. He was fifty years old. He also died due to lack of proper protective clothing. The stork enters the body through 2 mouths, eyes or noses. He could not escape the onslaught.

Areema Sheikh (UK)

There is a town called Walsall in central Britain. Areema Sheikh, 36, was a nurse at Walsalal Mez Hospital in the same town. His parents had migrated from Mirpur Azad Kashmir to Birmingham, UK years ago. He had four sons and three daughters. When Arima was young, her grandmother fell ill. He took great care of his grandmother and took care of her. Meanwhile, the desire to become a nurse was born in Areema. Areema got married in 2002. The following year, she began working as a housekeeper at Walsall Manor Hospital. At the same time, to become a nurse, she enrolled in university and began to study nursing. Last year, her long education came to an end and she became a qualified nurse. Meanwhile, she had become a mother of three.

When Cowade-19 reached Britain, the central region became its main center. As Walsalal Manor Hospital is a major treatment center, a separate ward has been set up for epidemic patients. Various nurses, including Arima, were on duty there. She began diligently caring for the sick man. However, a new corona virus from a patient also infected them. The virus quickly attacked Arima's lungs and she became very ill. He was treated but could not recover. Thus she was martyred while fulfilling her responsibility to the best of her ability.

Areema Sheikh's selflessness and sacrifice were appreciated and praised all over the UK. Arima was a courageous health worker, Matt Enoch, the British health minister, told reporters. Despite all the dangers, she did not shy away from caring for patients and set the highest example of duty by sacrificing her life. Areema Sheikh's relatives and acquaintances told the British media that she was a selfless woman. And be ready to help everyone. He always preferred others over himself and put himself last. Therefore, the family of Arima was not much surprised and disturbed to hear of his martyrdom. He faced the painful news with great courage and faith that every servant has to return to his Lord.

Before Arima Sheikh, Habib Zaidi, a Pakistani-born doctor based in Leigh-on-Sea, UK, died while treating patients. It is believed that he contracted the virus from a patient. But she could not recover and Dr. Habib died.

Dr. Abdul Qadir Soomro (Pakistan)

In early April, Dr. Abdul Qadir Soomro, a dermatologist in Karachi, also died at the hands of Covid-19. He was the Messiah who was active in social welfare. Born in 1956 in Shikarpur district. He did MBBS from Chandka Medical College, Larkana. He was associated with various hospitals and institutions specializing in skin diseases. He was an ideological man and played an important role in establishing several welfare hospitals in Sindh province. He used to run a clinic in Gulshan-e-Hadid area of ​​Karachi. If a poor person came, he not only did not charge a fee but also paid for the medicine.

When the epidemic of Covid-19 broke out, friends suggested that they close their clinic. Dr. Sahib said that not only diseases but also patients of common diseases come to him soon. Where will they go when the clinic closes? So he kept examining every patient. But at the same time, a patient of Kovid-19 transmitted the virus to SARS. Dr. Abdul Qadir Soomro was suffering from diabetes and high blood pressure. That is why the epidemic made his condition alarming and he could not recover. If he wanted, he could have saved himself by sitting at home like other people, but as a physician, he considered it necessary to perform his duty and while fulfilling it, he gave his life back to his Lord.

Dr. Adil Al-Tayyar (Sudan)


Dr. Adil, 64, was born in the town of Ibteba, Sudan. The father was a mediocre clerk in a government department. They had twelve sons and daughters. Everything that came into the house was divided into twelve parts. This trend made the young Adil a scapegoat in his childhood. He also realized that if he could read and write, he could help his family. In Sudanese culture, helping the family is considered a responsibility, not a burden. That is why Adil studied hard and succeeded in becoming a doctor.

He then moved to the UK to raise his family's standard of living. He was associated with various government hospitals. He earned higher education for his siblings with his earnings. He was an organ transplant surgeon. Established the Organ Transplant Center in Sudan in 2010 where the poor receive free treatment. Thus, even after going to the UK, he did not forget his homeland. When Coveid-19 reached the UK, Dr. Adil took security measures. However, while treating a patient, the epidemic virus also infected them. In the end, he took their lives. Thus another Muslim doctor in the UK fell in love with Allah while distributing healing among the patients. He was a beloved figure among his friends.

Alpha Saado (Nigeria)

This is from 1970 when Alpha Saado came from Nigeria to London, UK to study medicine. He became a doctor in 1976 and then settled in England. He worked in several London hospitals. Thousands of patients were cured by his hands. After becoming an experimenter, he also became the director of British hospitals.
Retired in 2017. When Corridor 19 was attacked, Dr. Alpha Saado said goodbye to retirement and began working part-time at the local Queen Victoria Memorial Hospital. He wanted to use his experience to heal epidemics. It is as if when humanity was caught in an epidemic, they did not like to stay at home and took to the field. This is a great example of philanthropy. While treating the sick, the dangerous virus also engulfed Dr. Alpha. He was treated but Muzi continued to bury his claws in his body. Finally, Dr. Alpha left his loved ones and passed away. He was a popular figure in his circle. A practicing Muslim who, with his exemplary role on non-Muslims, formed positive thoughts for Islam.

"Moral" wounds
During a war or an epidemic, patients keep coming to hospitals. Due to the large number of patients, doctors and nurses often find themselves in a dilemma as to who should be treated first. In such a situation, less injured people are usually preferred because they have a better chance of survival. In the same way, the young are given priority over the old. But if the medical staff never manages to save both, some doctors or nurses will suffer and even feel guilty. They think they are responsible for the deaths. Psychologists have dubbed this unique condition a "moral injury."

Doctors, nurses and other medical staff around the world continued to suffer "moral wounds" during the 19th century. In fact, every hospital had a severe shortage of ventilators, safety equipment and supplies. Therefore, when thousands of patients came suddenly, it became difficult to decide which one to treat first. "We doctors aren't too upset to see someone die," says one doctor. We are taught to face death. The problem arises when we cannot save the precious lives of human beings. That doesn't happen under normal circumstances. "


In fact, all health workers work long hours during a war or an epidemic. They rarely get time to rest and sleep. In this condition, a person naturally becomes a victim of physical and mental fatigue and then at a weak moment he can make a wrong decision. If this wrong decision kills someone, then the moral crime becomes Sohan Ruh. "We all come here to help people," says one prominent British doctor. But what do we do when we feel helpless? "Even with the experience and the best tools, we can't save anyone's life."

The role of the government in a serious crisis also affects the health sector. On such an occasion, the indifference and shortcomings of the government make them very angry that they are not able to provide them with medicines and necessary equipment. One nurse expressed her feelings on the occasion: "Everyone knows we are on a mission to save the lives of others. But we do not understand why our rulers are unaware of this mission.

"Give my vanity letter to the young man."
A 90-year-old Belgian woman has set an eternal example of self-sacrifice. In mid-March, Suzanne Holerius, an elderly woman from the town of Bankom, was admitted to a local hospital. Somehow he was bitten by a coward. The hospital was already plagued by epidemics and there was a severe shortage of ventilators. Soon Suzanne began to have difficulty breathing, which is a hallmark of Cowade-19. Then they heard the doctors talking to each other, saying, where to get a vanity letter for a woman now. They were very upset.
Suzanne gestured to a doctor and said, "Baby! I don't need a ventilator. I have lived a full life. Let me go If a vanity letter is arranged for me, then it should be given to a young boy or girl. ”Hearing this, tears came to the doctor's eyes.

Suzanne died the next day. "My mother was like that, helping others, putting herself first and putting the wishes of loved ones first," her daughter told reporters. His life is a beacon for us. "

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