The conflict between East and West Germany was followed by World War III

Despite the United Nations, the divided regions continue to suffer
When World War I ended in 1918, the total population of Germany was 6,800,000, with an annual population growth of 3%. After the war, Germany signed a humiliating treaty at the French palace in Warsaw, which included a withdrawal from heavy warfare, armaments and large armies on Germany.

Due to these reasons, the German economy fell so much that the value of one dollar became several thousand German marks. Germany was in the throes of an economic crisis, but the economic and economic negative effects of the war. I (1930-33) was marked by the Great Depression
 Meanwhile,

in Germany, Adolf Hitler

began to gain power and strength under his Nazism in 1933, and in 1938-39 he started the Second World War, challenging the whole of Europe, including Britain and France. Although Germany's retreat began in late 1942 and early 1943, it became clear in 1944 that the days of Germany's defeat were numbered.
Of course, other allies, including the United States, Britain, France, and the Soviet Union, were concerned that Germany might not be the first to develop a nuclear weapon, in which case no human sympathy was expected from Hitler. Had to turn the world to ashes in a few days
 Thus, in 1944, the Allies' Committee for the Surrender of Germany was deciding on the surrender of Germany, which, unlike in World War I, required the signing of an agreement on the surrender of troops by a German army commander with the consent of the head of government. Was emphasized. In 1944, Allied forces landed in the middle of the Normandy region of France and began pushing back German troops.

April 20, 1945, was Adolf Hitler's birthday. Four days earlier, Russian General Marshall Zakov had begun shelling Germany from the east and north. The Battle of Berlin had begun. Hitler was in the city, and the German commanders were General Gotthard Heinrich and General Court von Tepelskirch.

Germany's 76 divisions consisting of 766,750 troops, 2,224 boThe Soviets laid siege to Berlin with 1.5 million troops. The Battle of Berlin lasted two weeks and two days from April 16 to May 2, 1945. Imagine the horrific devastation of this war: not only did Adolf Wolf Hitler commit suicide on May 2, 1945, at the end of the 16-day war, but 100,000 German soldiers were killed, more than 220,000 were wounded and 400,000 surrendered. 80,000 German soldiers were captured and another 22,000 German soldiers and about the same number of German civilians were killed in the inner city of Berlin where Hitler committed suicide.

On the other hand, more than 81,000 Soviet soldiers were killed and more than 280,000 were injured. The war destroyed 1997 Soviet tanks, 917 aircraft and 2,108 artillery pieces of various types. Although German troops surrendered in Berlin on May 2, German Commander-in-Chief General Keitel formally signed the surrender documents in front of the Allied forces on May 7, written in English, Russian and German. Were

Western allies celebrated the victory on May 8,

or three months later, the United States dropped atomic bombs on the Japanese cities of Hiroshima and Nagasaki, and Japan surrendered, and on October 25, 1945, the United Nations was formed. There were Russian troops in East Germany, including parts of West Germany, and in West Germany, there were US, French and British troops.
 And defeated Germany, including the city of Berlin, was divided into two parts, and it is a bitter truth that the city of Berlin, where more than 70 million people worldwide were killed when German troops surrendered, ended World War II at that very moment. That's where the Cold War began. World War II killed the most Russians, at 14 million. At least one civilian was killed.

The number of German soldiers killed was more than 5.318 million, while 3 million German civilians were also killed. France lost 2.1 million troops and 400,000 civilians, and the United States 446,000 troops and 12,000 civilians, while Britain lost 383,700 troops and 67,000 civilians in World War II.
Soviets
y planes, 9,303 artillery pieces, 45,000 Special Forces and Hitler's Special Forces, consisting of 40,000 veterans, were fighting for the defense of Berlin. On the other hand, the head of the Soviet Union at that time was Stalin.

Soviet General Giorgio Dzhakov, General Konstantin Rokosovsky and Evin Konev entered Germany with 2.3 million Russian troops and 200,000 Polish troops and laid siege to the capital Berlin. They had 6,250 tanks, 7,500 fighter jets and 41,600 artillery pieces.
When the United Nations was formed,

 and especially the Security Council, the Soviet Union's position in the Cold War was politically weaker than that of the Western Alliance. It was then one of the five permanent and veto-wielding countries of the security race. That is, his share was only 20%.

 Then when the United States used the atomic bomb against Japan, obviously no one in the world except the United States had nuclear weapons at that time, but not only the Soviet Union had strengthened its hold on the eastern part of Germany, but here Under communism the country's system was established and at the same time focused on the development of nuclear weapons until nuclear secrets were stolen from the United States. In 1949, the Soviet Union detonated a nuclear device.

From June 24, 1948, to May 11, 1949, the Soviet Union laid siege to Berlin, or in other words, laid siege to Berlin, which the United States, Britain, and France called the Berlin Block. The Soviet Union closed all rail and road routes to Berlin, leaving Western allies, the United States, Britain and France, unable to deliver supplies to Berlin, as the occupied parts of divided Berlin were surrounded by Soviet territory. I was surrounded.

The purpose of the siege by the Soviet Union was to force these Western powers to allow the Soviet Union to supply food and fuel to West Berlin and thus occupy the entire city of Berlin. ۔ Under normal circumstances, the United States might have insisted on the use of force, but the US CIA may have informed the US president and government at the time that the Soviet Union was developing nuclear weapons, so the Western alliance responded to the Soviet siege. From the beginning of the Berlin Airlift.
From June 24, 1948 to May 11, 1949, large cargo ships from the United States, Britain and other Commonwealth countries, especially Australia, flew more than two million flights during these eleven months, delivering 13,000 tons of food to Berlin daily. The airstrikes embarrassed the Soviet Union and lifted the siege of Berlin.

 However, in those 11 months, 101 lives were lost during air supply, including 40 British and 31 Americans. Most of the deaths were caused by plane crashes. During the operation, 17 American and 8 British planes crashed, costing the entire process ڈالر 224 million.

The United States named the operation Operation Vittles, the United Kingdom Operation Plainfare and Australia Operation Pelican. This was the first major Cold War event since World War II, in which the Soviet Union took a drastic step, and in contrast, the United States, Britain, and France adopted a political strategy that proved to be a ruse.

As far as the United Nations is concerned, this was the first time that a veto power member of the Security Council stood against the Soviet Union, and then it is a bitter truth that the decision here is also a test of strength and the basis of political wisdom. And the dispute over the partition and occupation of Germany, and especially the city of Berlin, was not resolved.

 Immediately after this global conflict, on 4 July 1949, the United States, Belgium, Luxembourg, the Netherlands, France, Canada, Portugal, Italy, Denmark, and Iceland formed the NATO North Atlantic Treaty Organization.

Three years later, on February 18, 1952, Greece and Turkey joined NATO. In 1954, the Soviet Union also applied to join, saying it wanted to join Europe for peace, but was opposed by NATO members. On May 9, 1955, West Germany joined NATO, and Norway's foreign minister called it a turning point.

Following the end of the Cold War in 1999, three former communist countries ہ Hungary, the Czech Republic, and Poland نی joined NATO. In addition, Albania, Macedonia, Georgia, and Croatia are seeking NATO membership.
When NATO was formed and West Germany joined it, the Soviet Union and its allies formed the Warsaw Pact on 15 July 1955 in Warsaw, the capital of Poland, which included Albania, Bulgaria, Czechoslovakia, East Germany, These included Hungary, Romania and Poland.

Albania withdrew from the agreement in 1961 due to differences between China and Russia. The SEATO-South Asia Treaty Organization was formed in September 1954. It was a defense agreement that included Australia, New Zealand, the Philippines, France, the United Kingdom, the United States and Pakistan. It was against the Soviet Union and China and ended in 1977. ۔

Another similar organization in the Middle East to counter Soviet interests was the CENTO Sandal Treaty Organization, or Baghdad Pact, formed in 1955, which included Iran, Iraq, Pakistan, Turkey, and the United Kingdom.

This organization became ineffective when General Abdul Kareem overthrew the king with a revolution in Iraq on July 14, 1958. It should be noted that the revolution in China in 1949 and the establishment of a communist government and the Soviet Union becoming a nuclear power. The situation later became alarming for the Western bloc.

Germany was divided into two factions, and the powers that had veto power over the security of the United Nations were again embroiled in a global conflict after World War II. Improved by nuclear power, but still Germany's battlefield due to war fears

While West Germany had troops with NATO missiles and piles of weapons in the form of a Western alliance, so did East Germany with arms and troops from the Soviet Union's Warsaw Pact countries. It seemed that perhaps these great powers of the world had decided that if there was a third world war, the battlefield would be Germany. Communist power in East Germany was in line with its dictatorial regime, and East Germany was embroiled in such agreements with the Soviet Union.
Unable to escape, and so did West Germany's democracy and capitalist regime, which, after the defeat in the war, made similar agreements with the United States and Britain, some of which still have German-Russian relations. Germany is still bound by the terms of trade and economic agreements. But the fact is that at that time the people of West Germany were more free and prosperous than the people of East Germany.

From 1945 to 1950, 1.5 million Germans migrated from East Germany to West Germany and sought political asylum. By 1961, 4.5 million Germans had fled East Germany to West Germany and sought political asylum there. This number was 20% of the total population of East Germany. The position of the United States, Britain, and France over East and West Germany, as opposed to the Soviet Union, was politically strange.


The Soviet Union claimed the right to occupy all of Germany, and especially the entire city of Berlin, and had made a failed attempt to do so in the form of the siege of Berlin in 1944-49, and it knew that politically if East Germans were Westerners If he does not stop going to Germany, there will come a time when he will have to give up East Germany as well.

As far as the UN Charter and the Human Rights Declaration were concerned, it was morally necessary to respect the Soviet Union because these powers, including the UN Charter and the Human Rights Declaration Soviet Union, had co-created and In 1958, Brezhnev gave an ultimatum to the Western alliance to evacuate West Berlin in six months to make the city a demilitarized zone. East Germany and the Soviet Union will take control of Berlin's routes six months later. Britain and France have stated they will continue to use Berlin freely.

They decided that the Soviet Union's aggression against West Germany would be met with a united response. The foreign ministers of the four countries met three times in May 1959 but failed to reach an agreement, but because of these meetings, Russian Prime Minister Khrushchev and US President Eisenhower acknowledged that any agreement on arms control The problem should be solved through dialogue instead of force. Then in 1959 Khrushchev spent a few days at Camp David with the US President and from these talks Khrushchev realized that a deal with the US was possible on the Berlin issue and he Agreed to negotiate.
It was later decided that a solution to the problem would be found at the 1960 Paris Summit. But on May 1, 1960, the Soviet Union shot down a U.S. spy plane U2 flying from a U.S. military base at Badaber in Peshawar, Pakistan, with a SA2 guided missile that hit the ground in Russian territory, and its pilot, Francis Gary Francis Gray. Arrested (It should be noted that Uto US spy planes flying from Pakistan at high altitudes used to take pictures of Russian military and other important installations in the Russian territory with a camera.) When the Soviet Union shot down the plane, the pilot was killed alive. He also confessed to spying.

Therefore, the United States faced humiliation on the world stage. Now Khrushchev has also threatened Pakistan that Russia has drawn a red circle around Peshawar. On the other hand, Eisenhower protested angrily and refused to attend the meeting on Monday, thus canceling this important meeting in Paris. John F. Kennedy became President of the United States. One month and three days after the cancellation of the Paris Conference, on June 4, 1961, at the Vienna Conference, tensions between President Kennedy and Khrushchev escalated.

The Soviet Union set a deadline of December 31, 1961, to take control of the city of Berlin, and the Soviet Union's plan to build the Berlin Wall became clear. Khrushchev had already kept it secret and had already gathered tens of millions of tons of material and 32,000 engineers, other staff and 14,000 troops to build the 156-kilometer-long Berlin Wall at breakneck speed.

After the Vienna summit, when President Kennedy saw the crisis escalate, he told ABC TV and radio in Washington that the United States did not want a war, but had historically acknowledged Russia's concerns over Eastern Europe, and therefore the Soviet Union. We want to start talking again.

 But in the same speech, President John F. Kennedy announced that he would ask Congress to provide an additional 25 3.25 billion for arms and ammunition to add six more divisions in the military and two divisions in the Marines. He also demanded more money for space research, saying it would further improve the defense system.
He said that today the number of US troops is 875,000, which is to be increased to 1000000, as well as 29000 in the dynamic navy and 6300 in the air force, during the TV radio address of US President John F. Kennedy. Was located near the resort of Sochi.

He told US envoy John Jay McCly that the increase in troops by President Kennedy was a threat to war, although in his speech President Kennedy acknowledged the Soviet Union's protection in the historical context of Eastern Europe. He had indicated that if the Soviet Union built a wall between East Berlin and West Berlin, they would not cause it.

Thus, on August 13, 1961, Soviet and East German troops closed the eastern border with a 156-kilometer-long barbed wire fence. From August 17, construction of the 156-kilometer-long, 3.6-meter-high wall began at a rapid pace. In August, East Germany and the Soviet Union barred West Berlin and West Germany from entering East Berlin and East Germany, although in 1945, immediately after World War II, when Hitler and Nazism were defeated in Berlin, the four powers, the Soviets, At a conference between the Union, the United States, Britain and France, it was agreed that Allied forces would be allowed to move freely to Berlin. Will be able to come to every area.

After August 30, 1961, the Soviet Union's rise in East Berlin and East Germany, and the United States, Britain and France's rise in West Berlin and West Germany, came to a standstill when President Kennedy reacted immediately. While 14,000 troops sent 216 modern fighter jets F84 and F86 Air Force aircraft to Europe. On October 22, 1961, two months after the construction of the Berlin Wall began, the car of US Chief of Mission West Germany E Allan Lighter was stopped at a checkpoint en route from West Berlin to East Berlin.
Former U.S. General Lucius D. Clay, who was President Kennedy's adviser in Berlin, wanted an answer and Brigadier General ٖ Frederick.O.Hartel Frederick O'Hartel was ready to bulldoze the roadblock with tanks. gone. He sent a message to US Ambassador Albert Hemsing, who was also a member of the Berlin Mission, to order the removal of obstacles on the way from West Berlin to East Berlin.

 Hemsing may have had talks with President Kennedy during this time, and then Hemsing arrived in his official car with full protocol, where the tanks and armies of the Soviet Union and East Germany and the United States, Britain and French troops and tanks stood face to face.

When US Ambassador Albert Hemsing arrived at the entry point, Soviet and East German troops demanded his passport and then only allowed his car to enter East Berlin for talks and the rest of the guards returned. نا پڑا۔ The British ambassador was also detained the next day. When Hemsing was returned on October 27, 1961, the situation became critical and the outbreak of World War III was in grave danger. Now the Soviet Union had made it very clear that it would have full control over East Germany, including East Berlin, and the United States, Britain, and France were barred from entering. Political tensions and pressures were now at an all-time high around the world.

This was the same German mainland where the Soviet Union entered 16 years ago and then the United States, Britain and France as victors. Then in 1948-49 the siege of the Soviet Union was successfully defeated by the United States, Britain and France. Had failed but now the armies were face to face and there was a distance of a few meters between them. Nikita Brezhnev had taken a decisive stance, and some flexibility was shown by President Kennedy when he spoke on TV and radio after the Vienna Conference, saying that he was concerned about the Soviet Union's concerns over Eastern Europe. Recognize the historical background.

At the time, Brezhnev was well-versed in President Kennedy's intentions and policy, and had previously shot down a U2 spy plane flying from Peshawar and refused to attend the Paris conference, and then canceled the Paris conference. Brezhnev also gained political strength.

And then on October 27, 1961, when the situation became extremely alarming and critical, President John F. Kennedy stated that although the Wall was not a better solution, we did not want war. After that, the troops had to retreat from this point on the Berlin Wall. Now the question was who backed down first. This may have been discussed with Prime Minister Brezhnev of the existing military command in East Germany, and when he had succeeded, then why would he fly at such talk.

First five meters of Russian tanks and troops retreated and then Western Allied tanks and troops retreated, thus recognizing the status of the Berlin Wall. There are so many walls in the world and in recent years there are hundreds of countries that have built hundreds of thousands of kilometers of walls on their borders with reservations from their neighbors.

Until the construction of the wall began in 1961, about 4.5 million people fled the communist dictatorship in East Germany and sought political asylum in West Germany, and until its construction in 1989, 5,000 Germans fled East Germany. Attempts were made to escape, killing at least 200 people.

Pakistan does not seem to have anything to do with this problem and political crisis in East and West Germany, but the fact is that the Berlin Wall was built because of Pakistan and the Berlin Wall was demolished because of Pakistan.

In 1959, in talks with the US President in Geneva, Khrushchev agreed that the issue of disarmament, along with the Berlin issue, would be resolved at the Paris Conference in 1960, forcing Khrushchev to join the talks. After Germany's conquest in 1945, the Soviet Union, the United States, Britain and France set out on a four-pronged Berlin mission to allow troops from all four forces to move freely into both parts of Germany, including East and West Berlin.
How could the people of East Germany be prevented from coming to West Germany in such a free environment? In the end, the Soviet Union would either withdraw from East Germany or remain ineffective if it remained in East Germany. But on May 1, 1960, when the Soviet Union shot down a U-2 spy plane flying over the US military airfield at Badaber, near Peshawar, it was allowed to boycott the Paris Summit. Kardi From 1961 to November 9, 1989, very few of those who peeled through the Berlin Wall reached West Germany from East Germany.

Then in 1979-80, when the former Soviet Union invaded Afghanistan, the Mujahideen of Afghanistan began to resist the Soviet aggression. The whole world thought that the Soviet Union would not enter any country and return. But the Afghan Mujahideen, with the clear help of Pakistan, not only forced the Soviet forces to withdraw from Afghanistan, but also the Soviet leader Garbachov reformed his occupation of Eastern and Central Europe and Central Asia under the headings of Glassons and Prestrica. Liberated India and at the same time broke the Varasa Pact as soon as it gave up communism and thus all the communist countries of Eastern and Central Europe also became independent.

From here, too, Soviet troops withdrew. This situation took the form of a revolutionary wave in Eastern and Central Europe in late 1989, after a few weeks of unrest in East Germany on November 9, 1989, when it was announced that East German citizens could move freely to West Berlin and West Germany. A large number of Germans crossed the barrier from East Germany to West Berlin, where they were greeted by hundreds of thousands of West Berliners, and within a week, the German giant dragged the Berlin Wall to several places. Broke from After that, the same people arrived with bulldozers and other equipment and started tearing down the entire 156 km wall.

Then came the German reunification, and on October 3, 1990, East and West Germany were reunited. From 1945 to 1961, when the Berlin Wall was not built, the security of the United Nations was tested here by the fundamental and central forces of the race. The oppression of world politics was tolerated by the people here and then this oppression was further strengthened by building the Berlin Wall.
As soon as the Berlin Wall fell and the end of the Cold War was announced, the billions of oppressed people in the developing and backward countries thought that all the forces and walls that divided the nations would be torn down. North and South Korea, Palestine, Jerusalem, Cyprus and Northern Cyprus, Azad Kashmir and Occupied Kashmir will also be reunited, but look at the repression of history that after the fall of the Berlin Wall, in human history, nations have been divided. The process of building more and more strong and long walls to occupy them has begun. 21 years after the fall of the Berlin Wall, construction began on the 708-kilometer-long Israeli West Bank wall, which is now 440 kilometers long.

The United Nations also exists, its security also has the veto power of race, it can only be said here that even in the ancient Babylonian and Nineveh civilizations of Iraq, Bakht Nasr was a very powerful king during whose time technology advanced so much. When Bakht Nasr had limited his arrogance, an unseen hand had written on the wall of his great palace that your downfall has been written and today, the inscription on the wall This phrase is used in almost every language in the world and is very common in languages ​​that are the official or official languages ​​of the United Nations.

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LOVE IS ENOUGH

 “All You Need is Love.” He also beat both of his wives, abandoned one of his children, verbally abused his gay Jewish manager with homophobic and anti-semitic slurs, and once had a camera crew film him lying naked in his bed for an entire day.

Thirty-five years later, Trent Reznor from Nine Inch Nails wrote a song called “Love is Not Enough.” Reznor, despite being famous for his shocking stage performances and his grotesque and disturbing videos, got clean from all drugs and alcohol, married one woman, had two children with her, and then canceled entire albums and tours so that he could stay home and be a good husband and father.

One of these two men had a clear and realistic understanding of love. One of them did not. One of these men idealized love as the solution to all of his problems. One of them did not. One of these men was probably a narcissistic asshole. One of them was not.

In our culture, many of us idealize love. We see it as some lofty cure-all for all of life’s problems. Our movies and our stories and our history all celebrate it as life’s ultimate goal, the final solution for all of our pain and struggle. And because we idealize love, we overestimate it. As a result, our relationships pay a price.

When we believe that “all we need is love,” then we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect, humility and commitment towards the people we care about. After all, if love solves everything, then why bother with all the other stuff — all of the hard stuff?

But if, like Reznor, we believe that “love is not enough,” then we understand that healthy relationships require more than pure emotion or lofty passions. We understand that there are things more important in our lives and our relationships than simply being in love. And the success of our relationships hinges on these deeper and more important values.

GOT RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS?

Well, I got solutions. Or at least ideas. OK, I should probably just say I've got ideas for solutions, because god knows I can't fix everybody's shit.

THREE  TRUTHS ABOUT LOVE

The problem with idealizing love is that it causes us to develop unrealistic expectations about what love actually is and what it can do for us. These unrealistic expectations then sabotage the very relationships we hold dear in the first place. Allow me to illustrate:

1. Love does not equal compatibility. Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you to be with over the long term. Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. And the two don’t bleed into one another very well.

It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who doesn’t treat us well, who makes us feel worse about ourselves, who doesn’t hold the same respect for us as we do for them, or who has such a dysfunctional life themselves that they threaten to bring us down with them.

Abstract painting love is not enough

It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who has different ambitions or life goals that are contradictory to our own, who holds different philosophical beliefs or worldviews that clash with our own sense of reality.

It’s possible to fall in love with somebody who sucks for us and our happiness.

That may sound paradoxical, but it’s true.

When I think of all of the disastrous relationships I’ve seen or people have emailed me about, many (or most) of them were entered into on the basis of emotion — they felt that “spark” and so they just dove in head first. Forget that he was a born-again Christian alcoholic and she was an acid-dropping bisexual necrophiliac. It just felt right.

And then six months later, when she’s throwing his shit out onto the lawn and he’s praying to Jesus twelve times a day for her salvation, they look around and wonder, “Gee, where did it go wrong?”

The truth is, it went wrong before it even began.

When dating and looking for a partner, you must use not only your heart, but your mind. Yes, you want to find someone who makes your heart flutter and your farts smell like cherry popsicles. But you also need to evaluate a person’s values, how they treat themselves, how they treat those close to them, their ambitions and their worldviews in general. Because if you fall in love with someone who is incompatible with you…well, as the ski instructor from South Park once said, you’re going to have a bad time.

2. Love does not solve your relationship problems. My first girlfriend and I were madly in love with each other. We also lived in different cities, had no money to see each other, had families who hated each other, and went through weekly bouts of meaningless drama and fighting.

Man and woman kissing love is not enough

And every time we fought, we’d come back to each other the next day and make up and remind each other how crazy we were about one another and that none of those little things matter because we’re omg sooooooo in love and we’ll find a way to work it out and everything will be great, just you wait and see. Our love made us feel like we were overcoming our issues, when on a practical level, absolutely nothing had changed.

As you can imagine, none of our problems got resolved. The fights repeated themselves. The arguments got worse. Our inability to ever see each other hung around our necks like an albatross. We were both self-absorbed to the point where we couldn’t even communicate that effectively. Hours and hours talking on the phone with nothing actually said. Looking back, there was no hope that it was going to last. Yet we kept it up for three fucking years!

After all, love conquers all, right?

Unsurprisingly, that relationship burst into flames and crashed like the Hindenburg into an oil patch. The break up was ugly. And the big lesson I took away from it was this: while love may make you feel better about your relationship problems, it doesn’t actually solve any of your relationship problems.

This is how a toxic relationship works. The roller coaster of emotions are intoxicating, each high feeling even more important and more valid than the one before, but unless there’s a stable and practical foundation beneath your feet, that rising tide of emotion will eventually come and wash it all away.

3. Love is not always worth sacrificing yourself. One of the defining characteristics of loving someone is that you are able to think outside of yourself and your own needs to help care for another person and their needs as well.

But the question that doesn’t get asked often enough is exactly what are you sacrificing, and is it worth it?

Sad girl realizing that love is not enough

In loving relationships, it’s normal for both people to occasionally sacrifice their own desires, their own needs, and their own time for one another. I would argue that this is normal and healthy and a big part of what makes a relationship so great.

But when it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, one’s physical body, one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that same love becomes problematic. A loving relationship is supposed to supplement our individual identity, not damage it or replace it. If we find ourselves in situations where we’re tolerating disrespectful or abusive behavior, then that’s essentially what we’re doing: we’re allowing our love to consume us and negate us, and if we’re not careful, it will leave us as a shell of the person we once were.

THE FRIENDSHIP TEST

One of the oldest pieces of relationship advice in the book is, “You and your partner should be best friends.” Most people look at that piece of advice in the positive: I should spend time with my partner like I do my best friend; I should communicate openly with my partner like I do with my best friend; I should have fun with my partner like I do with my best friend.

But people should also look at it in the negative: Would you tolerate your partner’s negative behaviors in your best friend?

Amazingly, when we ask ourselves this question honestly, in most unhealthy and codependent relationships, the answer is “no.”

I know a young woman who just got married. She was madly in love with her husband. And despite the fact that he had been “between jobs” for more than a year, showed no interest in planning the wedding, often ditched her to take surfing trips with his friends, and her friends and family raised not-so-subtle concerns about him, she happily married him anyway.

But once the emotional high of the wedding wore off, reality set in. A year into their marriage, he’s still “between jobs,” he trashes the house while she’s at work, gets angry if she doesn’t cook dinner for him, and any time she complains he tells her that she’s “spoiled” and “arrogant.” Oh, and he still ditches her to take surfing trips with his friends.

And she got into this situation because she ignored all three of the harsh truths above. She idealized love. Despite being slapped in the face by all of the red flags he raised while dating him, she believed that their love signaled relationship compatibility. It didn’t. When her friends and family raised concerns leading up to the wedding, she believed that their love would solve their problems eventually. It didn’t. And now that everything had fallen into a steaming shit heap, she approached her friends for advice on how she could sacrifice herself even more to make it work.

And the truth is, it won’t.

Why do we tolerate behavior in our romantic relationships that we would never ever, ever tolerate in our friendships?

Imagine if your best friend moved in with you, trashed your place, refused to get a job or pay rent, demanded you cook dinner for them, and got angry and yelled at you any time you complained. That friendship would be over faster than Paris Hilton’s acting career.

Or another situation: a man’s girlfriend who was so jealous that she demanded passwords to all of his accounts and insisted on accompanying him on his business trips to make sure he wasn’t tempted by other women. This woman was like the NSA. His life was practically under 24/7 surveillance and you could see it wearing on his self-esteem. His self-worth dropped to nothing. She didn’t trust him to do anything. So he quit trusting himself to do anything.

Yet he stays with her! Why? Because he’s in love!

Remember this: The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love.

You can fall in love with a wide variety of people throughout the course of your life. You can fall in love with people who are good for you and people who are bad for you. You can fall in love in healthy ways and unhealthy ways. You can fall in love when you’re young and when you’re old. Love is not unique. Love is not special. Love is not scarce.

But your self-respect is. So is your dignity. So is your ability to trust. There can potentially be many loves throughout your life, but once you lose your self-respect, your dignity or your ability to trust, they are very hard to get back.

Love is a wonderful experience. It’s one of the greatest experiences life has to offer. And it is something everyone should aspire to feel and enjoy.

But like any other experience, it can be healthy or unhealthy. Like any other experience, it cannot be allowed to define us, our identities or our life purpose. We cannot let it consume us. We cannot sacrifice our identities and self-worth to it. Because the moment we do that, we lose love and we lose ourselves.

Because you need more in life than love. Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough.

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LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL

Life is beautiful, but not always. It has lots of problems you have to face everyday. Don't worry though! All these problems make you strong, it gives you courage to stand alone in future. Life is full of moments of joy, pleasure, success and comfort punctuated by misery, defeat, failures and problems. 

There is no human being on Earth, strong, powerful, wise or rich, who has not experienced, struggle, suffering or failure. You have to work hard to reach to the highest position. Life is full of paths, you just have to choose the right one. Life is interesting and amazing like the stars up in the skies.

With no doubt, Life is beautiful and full of celebrations. However you should always be ready to face adversity and challenges. There are difficult situations in life as well.Be careful!! You might get hurt too hard. 

Life is sometimes too selfish to think about yourself. Then life is too hard to handle. Falling in love! People tend to fall in love nowadays but i personally think the right time has to come... You might also get hurt in Love. You might be broken-hearted as the people say.

Life is the place where people treat everyone differently, racism exists as well as bullying. People tend to say bad stuff behind people's back. There are millions of people using horrible words to call people, People use people everyday. Life is not that easy in my view. Sometimes, all you want to do is sit alone and question yourself with hundred of questions

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Am I ugly as the people say?
Why don't i have any friends?
Why is the world so hard to live in?
What do i look like in other peoples eyes?
Why don't i have the same colour of the skin as everyone else? 
How can i make others happy?

The questions does not stop. You ask those questions over and over again. When you don't have any answers, you want to scream out loud or cry.

Bullying? Racism? What are all these?, I don't understand what people get from making others unhappy and upset. Every single one of you there in the world have your own beauty. EVERYTHING IS BEAUTIFUL.

So don't sit there saying i'm ugly say i'm PRETTY or HANDSOME, Damnn care about what people say.

"RUMORS ARE SPREADED BY HATERS, CARRIED BY FOOLS AND ACCEPTED BY IDIOT!" Treat people the way they treat you! Be strong and face these saddo people around the world. Haters are always around you.
 but it doesn't matter cause they are the ones who make you famous. So what? If you're not beautiful, pretty, you have life and thats the most of it. Not everyone gets to live and those who do are sooo lucky!

People die, life changes, people come and go but guess what you have to go with it however much it hurts . You miss people who were in your life, that's the way they remind you that they still exist in your life. I know the feeling of that, I miss my handsome uncle as well but i know we can never meet again. 
I know he is not here anymore, So what i will still love him the most in my life. People say forget the past, life in present and save the future for tomorrow. I think that is true, but i cannot forget my past, it has all those beautiful moments which mean the world to me. It is the hardest thing but i just try try try and try. Don't give up or lose hope on anything.

DREAM AS MUCH AS YOU LIKE AND MAKE IT TRUE!
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE SO MAKE THE MOST OF IT.

Live your life however you want

Have fun! Dance as much you want!

Take risks.. Trust yourself. Believe in yourself....

Damn care about haters! There is so much to do so stop faffing about.

Life is too short to save it for tomorrow.

Don't give up and Hope always!

Love Forever!! Do what your heart says...

Learn lessons from the mistakes....

From this i learned awful a lot things. I started to enjoy life instead of listening to sad songs and sitting alone. Happiness came into my life but there is sadness as well. Everyday i used to dress in dull clothes now i love colours i used to hate going out of my house but guess what all these sound outside sounds attractive than sad songs. Rock music is what i listen to now, sometimes sad as well All things in life depends on what your mood and the situation.

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Life Inside The Young Pioneers

 Whether practicing with grenades or shooting Germans, the Young Pioneers of the World War II era were forced to grow up all too fast.

The Soviet Union’s Answer To The Boy Scouts

Young Pioneers wear gas masks during a civil defense drill in Leningrad. 1937.

The haunting photo above has, in recent years, taken on a new life thanks to the internet. However, few seem to know the story behind it.

The image shows members of the Young Pioneers youth group in Soviet Russia donning their gas masks during a civil defense drill near Leningrad in 1937. These days, the image appears to depict a people consumed by fear of war. At the time, however, the image was meant to be one of strength, meant to convey the efficiency and preparedness of the youth organization.

The Vladimir Lenin All-Union Pioneer Organization, commonly known as the Young Pioneers, was a youth organization in the Soviet Union that promoted communist ideals of cooperation and hard work.

The organization was formed in 1922, when the Scouts, the larger movement that encompasses the Boy Scouts, was banned from Soviet Russia. They were banned for not supporting the new communist government, but citizens still recognized the good that the Scouts did. In order to fill that gap, the Soviet government created the Young Pioneers in order to teach life skills to young kids while also indoctrinating them into communist ideology.

Early Young Pioneers.

Children between the ages of 10 and 15 joined the Young Pioneers and participated in sports, games, summer camps, and the like. Though membership was hypothetically voluntary, social pressure ensured that almost every child in that age range was a Pioneer.

Young Pioneer dress uniform.

The Soviet Young Pioneers were part of a larger Pioneer movement that sought to foster communist ideology within the youth. This larger Pioneer organization had chapters across the communist world and beyond, including Cuba, China, Mexico, and Finland.

When The Great Patriotic War, as the Soviets refer to World War II, broke out, the Young Pioneers applied the skills that they had learned in their organization in order to aid the war effort.

During the war, children of the Soviet Union were exposed to much of the violence of the war. Instead of cops and robbers, children in the Soviet Union during the war played “Soviets against Germans”.

In the midst of the war, children would play with discarded shells, grenades and clips. One Soviet newspaper article from 1942 quoted a child at a youth summer camp saying, “We practice grenade throwing and play with our pets.”

Another said that she was “mastering the rifle and reading Gogol’s Dead Souls.”

The Young Pioneers also contributed to the war effort by having as many as 5 million members working on state farms to make up for the older men who had gone off to fight. Pioneers were also encouraged to collect items that could be reused for the war effort like paper and scrap metal. Young Pioneers collected 134,000 tons of scrap metal between 1942 and 1944.

Pioneers were also directed to maintain the graves of those who died in the war, many of which were left neglected in the chaos of wartime.

In areas that were occupied by the German army, many Young Pioneers even became involved in resistance movements. Some died fighting German occupation, and four of them were awarded the Gold Star Medal, one of the highest military honors in the Soviet Union and a symbol that marks its wearer as a “Hero of the Soviet Union.”

Official portrait of Valentyna Kotyka

One such Pioneer was Valentin Kotyk, the youngest ever Hero of the Soviet Union. When the Germans occupied Ukraine at the height of World War II, Kotyk, who was only 14 at the time, joined the partisan resistance. He was wounded twice before he was eventually killed in the Battle of Iziaslav. He was honored with the Gold Star Medal and via numerous monuments at Young Pioneer camps across Russia to this day.

These days, the Young Pioneers still exist throughout the world, but they are much less popular than they were at the height of Soviet power. They have heavily reduced their focus on spreading communist ideology, and function much more like a traditional scout group.

But when the Young Pioneers were first formed, it was under unique circumstances complete with unique challenges. And with the beginning of Soviet involvement in World War II, this children’s organization was forced to confront the brutality of war, and many of its members rose to the challenge.

Thus, images like the one at the very top demonstrate that there is no way to fully remove children from the realities of war, and that the decision to go to war will always, ultimately, affect those most vulnerable.

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Pakistan Win World Cup 1992(Memories)

            PAKISTAN VS ENGLAND WORLD CUP 1992

Wasim Akram magic wins it for Imran Khan's cornered tigers

Pakistan 249 for 6 (Imran 72, Miandad 58, Pringle 3-22) beat England 227 (Fairbrother 62, Akram 3-49, Mushtaq 3-41) by 22 runs

In the end, it had to be Imran. Pakistan's captain, leader, talisman and icon is into his 40th year and will surely never be seen again on a cricket field after this, the triumph to end all triumphs. But when, with the game out of reach for England and only pride left to fight for, Richard Illingworth launched a tired wipe to Rameez Raja on the edge of the ring, it was Imran Khan, the bowler, whose upraised arms confirmed the end of a career-long quest, and the seizure of Pakistan's maiden World Cup triumph.

The scorecard will say that Pakistan outlasted England to win by 22 runs - and Imran's role was fittingly front-and-centre, in particular a captain's innings of 72 that set the agenda for everything that followed. And yet, the numbers tell only a fraction of the story of a fraught, tense encounter in which a sprinkling of magic proved the difference between the teams.

The match panned out much as the two teams' runs to the final had done - England, the early pace-setters, pushing Pakistan to the absolute brink in the opening exchanges, only for a few moments of good fortune to turn the tide and drain the energies of the men in light blue. And then, slowly at first, but then in a crescendo with bat and later with ball, Pakistan shed their inhibitions and turned to their inner tigers to finish with a roar that no opponent could have withstood.

The critical moment came as the players paused for drinks after 34 overs of England's run-chase. Faced with a stiff target of 250, England had been rocking at 69 for 4 but found, in Neil Fairbrother's eye for a deflected single and Allan Lamb's old-school pugnacity, a fifth-wicket pairing with the requisite fight to take the game deep. Their stand had exactly doubled England's total to 138 and reeled the requirement back to a manageable seven an over, when Imran decided it was time to turn back to his strike bowler, Wasim Akram, with licence to let rip.

It was a moment by which legends are born. After another new-ball burst in which Wasim's consummate skill had been undermined by the degree of movement on offer, his return with an older, tamer ball wrecked the contest. With reverse-swing from the outset, England were on their guard, but even knowing what was liable to come his way, Lamb had no response to a delivery from the Gods, an inswinging, out-seaming gut-twister that snaked one way then the other, opening the batsman up like a can of worms before kissing past a groping edge to flick the outer half of his off stump.

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And if that was good in isolation, then the follow-up to Chris Lewis conferred the double-whammy instant iconic status - a flip of the shiny side of the ball to unleash a howling inswinger, one that started so wide of off stump, Lewis might have believed it would be called as such, before hurtling back through his defences as if caught in a gravitational pull, to smash the top of the stumps, and confirm that England's hopes were gone.

Fairbrother withstood as best he could, top-scoring for England with a gutsy 62, but Pakistan had too many snake-charming overs left in their repertoire for their opponents to get back on track. If there was an error in England's approach, it was their failure to take the attack sooner to the left-arm spin of Aamer Sohail, who burgled his way through 10 overs for 49 in the crucial mid-innings rebuild, and allowed Pakistan to paper over the fact that, with all due respect to Imran's glorious past, they came into the game with just three frontline bowlers.

But what a trio they proved to be. Until Akram's intercession, it seemed that Mushtaq Ahmed's outrageous googly to Graeme Hick might prove to be the crowning moment of the night, but his 3 for 41 was no less critical for being upstaged. In fact, in luring the ever-dangerous Graham Gooch to his doom on the slog-sweep for 29, he arguably did as much as anyone to point Pakistan towards glory.

The boy-turned-man who took that catch, sprinting, stretching, sprawling at deep midwicket for an inspired take - was the zippy seamer Aaqib Javed, whose precociously commanding performance at the top and tail of the innings returned figures of 2 for 27 to ensure that the injured Waqar Younis was barely given a passing mention. Throw in another display of unfettered strokeplay from Inzamam-ul-Haq in the latter stages of Pakistan's innings, and it's clear this triumph - Imran's overlord status notwithstanding - was a testament to Pakistan's eternal faith in youth.



But how they were made to battle by a team that came into the final as favourites after a supremely disciplined campaign, but who crucially lacked the same youthful spark to augment the ageing giants in their line-up. With the ball, Derek Pringle produced one of the great losing performances in World Cup history, and Gooch and Lamb both had their moments with the bat. But Ian Botham's last hurrah was less of a joy. His old-pro outswingers had hoovered up 15 wickets in England's run to the final, but just one belated scalp on the night. And with the bat, he suffered the ignominy of a sixth-ball duck, adjudged caught behind off an Akram lifter, even as umpire Aldridge was beginning his walk to square leg.

Mind you, Pakistan's own innings hadn't started much better. On a lively deck with juicy early movement for the seamers, their gameplan had been clear from the outset. Bed in at all cost, at the expense even of forward momentum, and trust their middle-order artillery to reprise the late onslaught that unseated New Zealand in Saturday's thrilling semi-final.

It was a tactic fraught with risk, especially once the canny old pro Pringle had proven his fitness after missing the South Africa match with a rib injury. Manipulating the new ball like a yo-yo on its string, Pringle served up a supreme spell of wickedly intelligent medium pace, bowling eight overs off the reel for 13 runs, with only his own size-12s breaking the spell, as he overstepped for a total of five no-balls, coupled with three wides.

Pringle accounted for both openers in that first spell, Aamer Sohail for 4, who flashed with flat feet at one that nipped off the deck outside off, before Rameez Raja was pinned lbw for 8 by the inducker, a brace of deliveries that showcased his mastery of seam position, honed in so many Championship-winning seasons at Chelmsford.

But at 24 for 2 in the ninth over, and with Pakistan's veteran pairing of Imran and Miandad already united at the crease, both teams knew that the game could be won and lost with the next breakthrough.

Initially Miandad seemed to know it more acutely than his captain. Whereas Imran was content to plant an imperious front foot down the wicket, blocking the straight ones and leaving those outside off, his partner got off to an unusually skittish start by the standards of his formidable tournament. He might have been caught in the gully on 1 as Lewis bent his back in an excellent new-ball spell, before scuffing a drive inches short of midwicket two balls later.

And then, in the space of two deliveries, came a pair of let-offs will surely haunt Pringle to the end of his days. With teasing shape back into the right-hander's front pad, Miandad was rapped plumb in front of the stumps, then plumber still - from an even fuller length, so taking out any doubt about the height. On both occasions umpire Bucknor shook his head, and Pringle could only flap his hands in disgust, ruing a moment lost, but confident it could yet come again.


Wasim Akram and Mushtaq Ahmed celebrate after the last England wicket PA Images via Getty Images
For even with those let-offs, Pakistan were seemingly going nowhere on 34 for 2 at the 17-over drinks break. But as Imran might as well have muttered during a mid-over conflab, "Ghabrana nahin hai (don't panic)". Sure enough, the introduction of Ian Botham broke the shackles a touch, as Miandad skipped to the pitch of a drive through mid-on for four in an opening over that yielded nine.

But it was Imran himself who had the next key let-off when, on 9 from 41 balls, Phil DeFreitas banged in a short ball that rushed onto a pre-meditated pull. Gooch at square leg, all 38 years of him, sprinted full pelt as the ball plummeted over his shoulder, but despite a valiant dive, he was unable to wrap his fingers round the chance.

Whether that was the game there and then, who knows. But slowly but surely, the MCG's vast outfield began to look chock-full of scoring opportunities, as England's tiring team - already feeling the strain after a long winter campaign - began to be pulled apart at the seams. From 70 for 2 at the halfway mark of the innings, the game was still in their grasp. At 96 for 2 after 30, they were getting anxious for a wicket. And at 125 for 2 after 35, with Dermot Reeve flogged from the attack with a 12-run over that brought up the hundred partnership, they were getting desperate.

Miandad, in his fifth World Cup, duly became the first Pakistani to score 1000 runs at the tournament, and by the time he was finally extracted in the 40th over for 58 - unfurling the reverse-sweep against Illingworth where conventional mowing through the line had been serving him just fine - the arrival of the helmetless Inzamam-ul-Haq, Pakistan's break-out star of the semi-final, wasn't exactly a blessing. At 163 for 3 with ten overs in which to make merry, the stage was perfectly set for Pakistan's much-vaunted finishers.

Imran knew it too. On 72, having done his bit and more, he aimed an ambitious wipe at his fellow legendary allrounder Botham, and picked out Illingworth on the edge of long-on boundary. He departed to a rich ovation, safe in the knowledge that he had risen to the occasion in what will surely now be his final, final farewell. And handed the reins to his other young gun, Akram.

Between them, Inzamam and Akram drained England's troops of their resolve, adding 75 in 53 balls between them, with Inzamam's initial flurry of four fours in his first ten balls giving way to a supporting role as Wasim took up the cudgels in the final five overs. He cracked four fours in his 18-ball 33, including a brace of venomous swipes to wreck Lewis's figures in his final over, and though Pringle returned to outfox Inzamam for a richly deserved third wicket, a target of 250 - four more than England had failed to chase in Calcutta five years earlier - was daunting.

Win moment in paksitan team's with Captain of Imran khan........ 

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